As human beings it’s only natural that we occasionally envy others.
Some people just seem to have it all; a nicer house, a better job, more savings or just a seemingly perfect life.
What we often don’t take into consideration is at what price did these people pay to get where they are at today. Was it years of hard work to amass their savings? Did they give up family time or possibly work jobs that they hated? Or maybe we feel a little envious of their material possessions, not realizing that they took on a huge amount of debt to acquire such things.
There will always be someone who has more money or more talent than you. Likewise you will always be one step ahead of somebody else.
The definition of success is unique to every single person. There is no single answer and there is no one size fits all.
Success should be defined by your priorities. What really matters to you in life? For me success would be raising my children to be happy, confident people.
Yes – I’ll be the first too admit, there are times when I get envious of other peoples success and goals.
I read amazing blog posts and wish I could be as creative.
I read other peoples saving goals and wish I had as much money saved. I see new businesses popping up left and right and wish that I was the one opening a business.
But they all worked their butts off to reach the level of success that they are at and I do not know how long it took them or what they sacrificed.
What I’ve learned though is that, in the end, I need to concentrate on what is best for me, not what everyone else is doing.
Maybe I’m wrong. Maybe someone else does have what you want and the sacrifices they made seem legit to you. Let that be your motivation. Instead of envying this person, learn from them.
Take note on how long it took them to reach their success. Don’t be afraid to ask for advice. Most people would be flattered to know you want to make it to the point that they are at today.
No two lives are the same. Learn from others but realize the steps you need to take to reach success will be unique to your situation.
The next time you find yourself becoming jealous of someone else, stop and ask yourself “what did this person sacrifice to get where they are at today?”
A lot of the time you will find you have nothing to be envious of after all.
Editor’s Note: much of the problem I see with clients that I coach is that we’re all envious of one another. Despite realizing it, much of the way you spend money ultimately relates to some sort of jealousy, envy, or perception issue. We’re constantly buying nicer things to improve our perception or to make ourselves feel better. The term ‘keeping up with the Joneses’ has been tossed around forever…and for good reason. We consistently try to keep up and often unknowingly compare our lives to somebody else’s in the process. However, I’ve personally found that you’ll never find peace until you’re content with what you have. Often the most success people in the world have given up a GREAT deal to get there: time with friends and family, missing out on their childrens’ lives, and being an absent husband/wife. Just because somebody has a seemingly perfect life on the outside often doesn’t tell the story of what they’re feeling underneath.
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